Changing our beliefs sound easy, but in fact, it’s not. In many cases, that’s all we need to do in order to jump to the next step. Why is it hard? Do we not believe in ourselves? Our capabilities? The voice in our head is most likely impeding us from accomplishing bigger and better things. That’s where we need to start.
Drop your assumptions! That was one of the first steps I had to do when I decided to go solo. Thinking I was “too young” to leave my job and start my own venture was limiting me for a while. I knew I had what it took, but the mindset/confidence wasn’t still aligned. How’s yours? Have you changed your attitude? This is a simple skill that we can all work on. Just like math or reading, it was something we all had to practice. Look at changing your belief system – just like that. Sound easy now, right?
Practice being open to change! Sometimes it’s just fear of the unknown. That is natural, we all tend to freak out. We need to understand if we don’t take risks, our goal may never happen. It’s that simple. We should go with our instincts and follow that path we have been creating. Change is usually good! With change we progress and evolve. We need to be OK with the uncomfortable in order to experience new things. Why are you afraid? Does it go back to your belief system? Most likely.
Our mind is so powerful, it’s the root to pretty much everything. That’s why we should start there. Nurture your beliefs and target your fear. Identify your fears and reverse them. Take deep breaths, allow yourself to relax and connect with your mind. It takes time, but you can do it. It sounds silly, but it works. I’m speaking from the heart and from my experiences. Once we make fear our best friend, we are no longer afraid of what’s next. Our beliefs are the core of what we do and not do. Remember you are in control, you can do it too!
As mentioned in my previous post, it’s all about stories. Craft your story! Make your brain believe anything you want it to believe. We need to delete “I can’t do _____” out of our belief system. Select better scenarios/stories that could help you achieve that. “I’m good at ___ and ___. I’m not afraid of failing because it will only teach me to do it better. If they can do it, I can do it too.” You get the point. Think about positive affirmations and you will see.
Stop criticizing yourself! It happens, I get it. This aspect ties to the point above. If you keep reminding yourself the same thing, your brain will continue to believe it. In this case, accept yourself and be mindful of your actions. Be optimistic and forgive yourself. You are not going to do everything perfectly, unfortunately. For that reason, don’t be your hardest critic and be kind. Life happens and we have to move on. Of course, make sure whatever happened doesn’t happen again or as often.
If you’ve been following my blog, you are probably a goal-oriented person too. I’m sure you set expectations and track its progression. Something I’ve been incorporating in my goal setting experience is to shift from expectations to intentions. This may also be a tactic to change your belief system. If you’ll be too heartbroken when the outcome was not what you expected, I would advice you taking this alternative route. An intention is how you plan to approach a task or experience. This way you know you will give your 100% and not worry so much on the outcome. What do you think about that? I really love this step because it’s helped me eliminate the expectation that I’ll make a mistake. Hey, you win some and you lose some. That’s all part of the game! Don’t beat yourself down.
Jot the points stated above down and start changing your mindset. I’m sure your success journey is ready to take off! I can’t wait to hear all about it. If you have any questions, please let me know below. I’m here to help as best as I can.
On another note, below are some photos from my New York trip. I LOVE LOVE this all red look. Sadly I can’t wear it in Florida. Haha.